Synopsis

Dr. Misner wants to thank the BNI members in Hong Kong and Malaysia where he gave a number of presentations this past week.

At the global networking conference in Kuala Lumpur, Dr. Misner attended a presentation by Penny Power, the founder of Ecademy.com. Penny’s topic was the need for entrepreneurs to stay in their flame: doing what they truly enjoy doing. Then the work doesn’t really seem like work.

Business owners who get caught up in the aspects of the business that don’t come naturally to them are working in their wax and not nurturing their full potential.

The solution is to remember that your wax is someone else’s flame. There is another entrepreneur out there who loves to do the things you hate doing. Delegate the things you don’t like or aren’t good at to employees or outside contractors.

The more time you stay in your flame, the more successful you will be. Flame work is infectious. So find the people in your BNI group whose flame is your wax. It may take time, but stick to it. The key is to see progress.

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Complete Transcription of BNI Podcast Episode 061 -

Priscilla Rice:
Hello everybody and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast, brought to you by networkingnow.com, the leading site on the net for networking downloadables. I am Priscilla Rice coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California.. I am joined on the phone today by the Founder and Chairman of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello Ivan. How are you?

Ivan Misner:
I am doing great, Priscilla. Thank you very much. Last week I talked about my visit to Kuala Lumpur and I have a follow-up to my last week’s podcast. First, I want to thank all the members in Hong Kong where I did several presentations and Malaysia where I did a number of presentations. It was really wonderful meeting so many members and doing those talks to people who were so receptive to the ideas that I had.

One of the things that I want to talk about is a presentation done by somebody else that resonated with me. It was at the Kuala Lumpur Malaysian conference for BNI. While I was attending the global networking conference in Malaysia, I heard a presentation but like I say, it really resonated with me. It was a presentation given by Penny Power, who is the founder of each ecademy, ecademy.com. That’s the ecademy with an e instead of academy with an a.

Penny was not only extremely knowledgeable and successful entrepreneur, she’s also a good friend of mine. I’ve known her and her husband, Thomas, very well over the last few years. Penny’s presentation focused on the concept of entrepreneurs staying in their flame. I thought that was an interesting thing that she was talking about. What are you talking about, I wondered.

She explained in her presentation that an entrepreneur’s flame is where he or she is the most passionate and excited about what their businesses. It’s where they are and what they truly enjoy doing. When an entrepreneur, she said in her presentation, is in his or her flame, the work doesn’t really seem like work. The entrepreneur perceives his or her tasks as effortless. If the business person is able to focus on aspects of business which keep them in their flame, it allows them to achieve their best.

She said on the flip side of that, when business people get caught up in aspects of the business that don’t come naturally to them, that they’re not good at or that they don’t like, working through these tasks takes away their energy and at least I’m exhausted and devoid of passion.

Business people stuck in a situation are working in their wax. I think that’s a great metaphor with a candle in the flame of the wax. Those people aren’t nurturing their full potential or two is what allowed them to thrive in business. She said the solution to the problem – and I love this – your wax is someone else’s flame. Your wax is someone else’s flame. In other words, in your weakness is someone else’s strength. It’s someone else’s passion.

As your business grows, the key to staying in your flame is to delegate the things that you don’t like or aren’t good at to employees or outside contractors, other people who actually enjoy doing these tasks and a really great at them.

The more skillful you are at recognizing the kinds of work that keeps you in your flame and the kind of work that keeps the people working with you in their flame, the more successful you are going to be and the less you are working in your wax, the more successful you are going to be.

She ended her presentation by saying that flame work is infectious. If you are doing what you love its infectious. What resonated with me is that I constantly hear people say that. “Your presentations are infectious. You seemed to love what you’re doing.” The reason for that is that I try to spend much of my time working in my flame.

Mind you, it took me years to get there to be able to do most of what I do being completely in my flame. I set a goal 10 years ago to be able to spend more time doing what I’m doing right now. Things like this podcast, speaking to members, doing presentations, writing and being a spokesperson for an organization. Without understanding this metaphor, I understood the concept of working on my business because I was excited about that aspect of it and working on it. Although I was good and have a doctorate degree in organizational behavior and management, that was my wax on my flame.

So I have worked hard at getting into my flame and do the things I love. The more we can do this in business, the more successful we are going to be. What a message, especially those of you who are education coordinators are wanting to bring this back to your chapter, you are in a room with a lot of BNI members and there are things that are your flame and things that are your wax. In that room, there are people whose flame is your wax.

If you can use some of the BNI members in that room at that meeting every week, and what’s their flame is your wax, you are using what they are excited about to do what you are not excited about. It’s a great way to start to use other BNI members to give you more time to be in your flame. That’s why I thought this fit into BNI so well. I want to thank Penny for that presentation. It was really great and I think it’s something that might resonate with many BNI members.

Priscilla:
It’s a great suggestion. Sometimes I think the hardest part, though, is being able to afford to outsource some of those tasks that are your wax. You know, it’s a lofty goal but it’s really important.

Ivan:
You bring up a good point and I’m glad she did, but I’m not sure. I’ve might take issue with you on it being a lofty goal. I think it may not be an immediate goal. And it may take time. I said to you it took me 10 years. I knew it would take a long time to do, but I never looked at it as being impossible.

It was gradual and so there was always progress. That is the key. I knew I was working with a very large organization even 10 years ago, that it would take time to get to where I needed to go. It could take 10 years or could take two or three years. The key is seeing progress. The more you can gradually be working in your flame and not in your wax and on your business and not in your business, the more you are doing the things that you love rather than the things you have to do, the more successful you are going to be.

I think in a previous podcast I talked about how years ago I created an organization chart. In the organization chart that I had, I had 15 different positions and I was doing 12 or 11 of the jobs. My goal over the next eight or 10 years was get myself into just one job. Every year there was progress. Every year I was doing one last job, one less huge job.

Over a period of time, over that ten year stretch, I got down to one position. I was doing one thing and that one thing was my passion. I think we can all do that. But if we do it gradually – I’m not suggesting that all of a sudden you job out everything. You can do it gradually, and look at this. You’re spending more time doing the things you love. Do you think if you’re spending more time doing the things you love that you could make more money?

Priscilla:
Definitely. I think it’s way more efficient.

Ivan:
Yeah. So if you’re making more money, paying somebody else for doing the stuff you hate is great. Life is perfect when that happens. Then in BNI, you have all of these other people do the things they’re doing is your wax but their flame. If you can bring them in to help you succeed, they will do that. You will be much more successful in business in the long run.

Priscilla:
Okay. Well that sounds like such a plan. I’m glad it took you a while. It gives me some encouragement to make my chart and see how many jobs I’m doing.

Ivan:
I may save us all the time Priscilla, but I’m a 20 year overnight success. It took me a long time to get there, and that the key is not are you where you want to go but the key is are you making progress? As long as you’re constantly making incremental progress, then you’re headed in the right direction.

Priscilla:
Thank you, Dr. Misner, and we’re out of time. That’s it for this week. This podcast has been brought to you by networking now.com, the leading site on the net for networking downloadables. Thanks for listening. This is Priscilla Rice and we hope you’ll join us next week for another exciting episode of the Official BNI Podcast.

 

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