A positive attitude makes people want to associate and cooperate with you. According to the survey of 3400 business owners that Dr. Misner talked about in Episode 501, a positive attitude is the number two characteristic of great networkers. Positivity has tangible benefits.
Not only is positivity a great tool within BNI, it’s a great tool for life. When you have and practice a Positive Attitude, you will become more excellent in whatever you do. Be Positive and you will be Happy. Here are three of the six pillars of strength that support this law of positivity.
- Always Think Remarkable (ATR). As in “How are you?” “Remarkable.”
- Enjoy A Little Craziness (EALC). Fun and silliness are an antidote to stress.
- Show That You Care (STYC). It can be as simple as a thumbs-up gesture.
Find out more about the positivity movement and the six pillars on Possi Global.
Brought to you by the Networking for Success Channel on YouTube.
Complete Transcript of Episode 531 –
Hello everybody and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast, brought to you by the Networking for Success Channel on YouTube, which features Dr. Ivan Miser and many other networking experts. I am Priscilla Rice, and I am coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California. I am joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello, Ivan, how are you and where are you?
Hi. I am doing fantastic. I am in Austin right now, but I am getting ready to go to the international BNI convention, which I will be at next week. I am going to have a thousand of my closest friends from all over the world. More than 70 countries will be there, and my guest today is also going to be at the BNI convention.
My guest today is a long-time friend. I want to introduce him here in a minute, Norm Dominguez. I have known Norm for about 30 years. This is his 30th anniversary in BNI, and you will get a 30 year anniversary pin, my friend, I promise, at the convention.
Norm started in BNI as a member. Then he became Executive Director. Then District Director. Then National Director for the United States and did a brief stint as the Chief Operating Officer and had the role of CEO for 8 years. Today he is Vice Chair Emeritus of BNI.
The reason I have invited him on the podcast today is that he has written a book called The Magic of Positivity. So I just have a couple of questions for Norm on why positivity is so incredibly important for networking. Norm, welcome to the BNI Podcast.
Well, Ivan, thank you very much. After all of these years, it is really a treat and an honor to share this podcast recording with you and your audience because positivity has really been a part of my life way before BNI. But why is it important? Because it makes us feel good. It is pretty simple, and if I can’t make it simple, it’s not worth it to me. To me, positivity cones from within.
Can I just add one other thing? If you go back and listen to my podcast earlier, for those of you listening, I did a podcast earlier when I talked about the five or seven ways that I listed for better networking. Number two, and this is based on a survey of 3400 people–number two was positive attitude.
The first thing that people see is your attitude and how you do things in general. A consistent negative attitude makes people dislike you and drives away referrals. A positive attitude makes people want to associate and cooperate with you. So there is a tangible reason. Number two out of all the long list of things is a positive attitude and that is what Norm is going to be talking about here today.
When we can expand upon positivity — and it is not only a great tool within the BNI family: it is a great tool in life because we do have options and when we can make the word or thought of positivity a habit–it overcomes so much of whatever there is of alternative mechanism, so to speak.
This is a project that literally, I got involved in with a BNI colleague out of South Africa back in 2014, and we really said, hey, let’s see what we can do to make positivity a better known method of practice around the world.
As I mentioned, you have a great little book. It is a quick read. It is not really long, but it has some great content. It is about 80 pages long called The Magic of Positivity. And you have a movement that you have established. Do you want to throw the website out to everyone before I talk about the Law of Positivity?
Sure I will be happy to. It is www.possiglobal.com.
Okay. Well, when you have and practice a positive attitude, you will become more excellent at whatever you do. Be positive and you will be happy. It is a very simple law and what we have used to strengthen that law in terms of being a foundation is supported by six pillars of strength. Or you might even call them life values. So we have these pillars and I will mention just a couple or a few of them.
One of them is a favorite one of mine because I was able to create it and make a story out of it. Always think “remarkable,” and why not? Because if we can keep ourselves in a mental spirit of thinking “remarkable,” we are telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth all the time. Even though somebody might say, “How are you?” And you say, “Okay, fine,” that may be untrue.
But if you say “Remarkable,” by golly, you are getting attention and you could not be having a great day but you can still be very remarkable. Ivan, you might want to elaborate on that a little bit because you have been exposed to that word with me for the three decades we have known each other.
I have and anybody who knows Norm knows that he is Mr. Remarkable because whenever you say to Norm, “How are you doing, Norm?” it is always, “Remarkable. I am doing remarkable. He once told me, “It could be remarkably good. It could be remarkably bad, but it’s always remarkable so that the response is always a positive personal response.” I have seen it in practice for 30 years. I have to commend you, Norm. You do an amazing job presenting that image.
It is fun to use it, but you have to have more to strengthen the law of positivity. So another one of our pillars is literally be a little more on the light side. We call it “enjoy a little craziness” and if we can’t enjoy life in terms of fun– I am a big sports fan so I am a cheerleader. I will do things that are a little off the wall, in particular jumping from sports to grandchildren. I have sleep apnea. I wear a mask when I sleep. The looks I get from my grandchildren – I just wish it was a Darth Vader mask so that you can have fun with it.
But if you can, enjoy a little craziness in your life–because it adds more balance, more positivity. So that is one of our pillars and there is a great story in the book about enjoy a little craziness from a guy out of India. He is known as a happiness coach, Alari Sandarum.
But another one I will mention because I know that we are limited in time is to show that you care. You know, a caring spirit is a healthy spirit and when you think about everything that takes place on this planet that really demands our attention, when there is is mnd-induced or whether it is Mother Nature. In America, we have had some interesting things happen last month with some hurricanes and some earthquakes. It really demands that we show that we care in whatever way. We can.
It can be as simple as a gesture or a smile, or we. Call it a prompt, a thumbs-up to show that we care, but it is an important part to show that we care in the Magic of Positivity.
Well, listen, I couldn’t agree more with that and there is a great saying that I have used for many years. It is one of BNI’s traditions. Is is that people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Showing you care about someone is a great save. To help build a powerful personal network. It is also a great way to come across as positive, even if your life is a challenge or you are having challenges in your life, showing that you care, it doesn’t put the challenge face forward. Instead, it puts face forward your interest in that other person. That comes across as positive and people appreciate that immensely.
It is one of your pillars. Norm has a number of other pillars in there. Accept responsibility, treat with respect, keep your word, and he has talked about several as well. Yeah, those are all of the pillars. If you have an opportunity, everyone, we are out of time but if you have an opportunity, look up a copy of the book. It is called The. Magic of Positivity, written by Norm Dominguez. There is some guy named Ivan Misner who did an endorsement on the front cover. Thank you so much.
Much appreciated, Ivan. Thank you.
My pleasure. Jack Canfield also did an endorsement for it. So check out the book. You can get it at Amazon.com. So you can go to Amazon.com and do a search on The Magic of Positivity worth Norm Dominguez. You will find the book. I personally recommend it. Norm, thanks for being my guest. This is like the first podcast that you have been on, isn’t it?
I believe so, Ivan. I got to listen to a lot of them. I really do appreciate the opportunity that you provided.
Well, thank you Norm. We need to have you on sooner on the next go-round, okay?
I am all for it. There is a lot of positive stuff to talk about.
There is. Thanks a lot, Norm. Back to you, Priscilla.
Okay, both of you, that was great. I really enjoyed it. I am looking forward to the book. Well, I would just like to remind the listeners that this podcast has been brought to you by the Networking for Success Channel on YouTube. Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of the Official BNI Podcast.